62%
of mothers find invisible everyday organization a heavy burden – for fathers it is 31%
Make invisible labor visible
Mental Load Tracker helps couples, families, and care teams recognize, share, and reduce mental load fairly.
Launch planned for 2026
Why this matters to all of us
20%
of women who carry main household responsibility thought about separation in the past 12 months
59%
of women in the EU do housework every day – for men it is 33%
280
out of 1,000 marriages are divorced within 25 years at unchanged divorce rates (2024)
What is mental load?
Mental load is the sum of invisible planning, organizing, and monitoring tasks required to manage daily life – from schedules and household to emotional care.
This cognitive labor is often distributed unequally and stays invisible, even though it costs enormous energy.
Planning
Execution
Control
Many tasks do not end when done – planning before and checking after are the invisible bulk of the work.
Gender care gap and mental load – connected
The gender care gap describes the imbalance in unpaid care work between women and men: cooking, cleaning, coordinating appointments, caring for relatives – in Germany, Europe, and comparable Western social structures, including North America, this still falls mainly on women.
Mental load is the invisible part of that work: constantly thinking ahead, planning, and remembering whether everything is done. It makes the care gap visible not only in hours, but also in daily mental strain – often long before arguments about who did the dishes.
Both reinforce each other: those who do more care work usually carry more mental load too. Conversely, invisible cognitive labor often goes unacknowledged because it does not show up on any to-do list. That is where Mental Load Tracker comes in – making both visible and negotiable.
When the load is uneven
Uneven mental load strains relationships, health, and the sense of fairness – often long before conflicts are spoken aloud.
Invisible work
"My work is not seen" – planning labor stays in the background.
Unequal distribution
One person carries responsibility for everything – structurally and in daily life.
Conflict & stress
Arguments about tasks, chronic overload, and less appreciation.
How Mental Load Tracker helps
Built specifically for mental load.
Three-phase model
Every task is split into planning, execution, and control so that invisible before and after work becomes visible.
Subjective scoring
Energy points instead of time estimates – each person rates perceived effort, with reflection after completion.
Personal capacity
Your personal capacity after work, commuting, sleep, and more as the basis for a fair share – not rigid 50/50, but balance for your team.
Positive reports
Weekly reports, live tracker, and shadow-load insights.
Different realities
Promoting greater understanding in neurotypical and neurodivergent couples.
Automation
Real relief through automated ticket creation and recurring events.
App preview
Explore the planned experience in an interactive prototype.